There are a few options that should work, try one of these
Connect the NTL box to the DVDR with scart
Connect the sky box the tv with scart (if the sky box has hdmi use it)
Connect the DVDR to the tv with hdmi
Connect the NTL and
Sky box the DVDR using scart
Connect the DVDR to the tv using hdmi
The second option will let you record both NTL and
Sky, but i'm not sure if the DVDR will output a "live" channel from both boxes. I suppose it will, give it a go.